第一次检视
何谓无我
练习
进度检视
当你完成本部分的练习后，你将会学到：
付出是不计较自己的得失
为别人而付出
因为自己重要而付出
第一次检视
这是第一次测试，请你在完成了无我的练习后再度来到此页完成检视。
我会基于什么考虑而决定付出呢？
□对方的地位
□期望的回报
□对方的需要
□社会的要求
当你付出时，你是为了什么？这些因素当中，“我”“对方的快乐”与“对第三者的影响”这三项因素在多大程度上影响你的付出呢？除了这三项因素外，有没有其他因素会影响你的付出呢？试着在下表中写出你付出的原因。
注意，总计的百分比必须要等于百分之百（100%）。例如“我”为40%，“对方的快乐”为30%，“对第三者的影响”为30%，加起来就是100%。
何谓无我
“无我”并不是否定我的存在，它有两个重要的前提：第一，我是重要的，因为我重要，所以有能力付出；第二，我是足够的。“无我”是在付出时不计较自己的得失，也不要求任何物质上的回报。相反，“有我”的一个重要前提是：我是不满足的。“有我”导致你出现索取。索取的特征是我付出后，你能给我什么回报。
练习
在以下练习中，请你记下三天内所做的事，在每一天中有多少事是为自己而做？有多少事是为别人而做？记下你的感受。
无我表一
请你将今天所做的事情分类，哪些是为自己做，哪些是为别人做，然后用百分比以柱状图的形式记录下来。
你在什么情况下会为别人而做事？
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你在什么情况下会为自己而做事？
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无我表二
请你将今天所做的事情分类，哪些是为自己做，哪些是为别人做，然后用百分比以柱状图的形式记录下来。
你在什么情况下会为别人而做事？
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无我表三
请你将今天所做的事情分类，哪些是为自己做，哪些是为别人做，然后用百分比以柱状图的形式记录下来。
你在什么情况下会为别人而做事？
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无我回顾
以上三天的练习中，当你为自己而做事时，你的感受如何？
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当你为别人而做事时，你的感受如何？
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你想永远拥有这份感觉吗？
□是
请详列原因：
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□否
请详列原因：
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请你列出永远拥有这份愉悦的详细计划。
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实行时间（请你为自己定下一个开始时间）：
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请你谨记这份感受，每当你开始质疑为何要为别人而做事时，回想一下这份感受。它能让你再次拥有动力，为别人而做事。
进度检视
恭喜你，你已经完成了“无我”部分的练习，现在，请你检视以下有关“无我”学习目标的达成度情况（请选出符合你的情况的选项，并用圆圈圈出）。
1．付出时不计较自己的得失。
2．为别人而做事。
3．因为自己重要而付出。
注意！别忘了返回本阶段的“第一次检视”（第124页）部分，完成你的检视。