第一次检视
何谓喜悦
练习（一）
练习（二）
小结
进度检视
当你完成本部分的练习后，你将会学到：
喜悦地付出
了解到在付出的同时会有着喜悦的心态
第一次检视
这是第一次测试，请你在完成了喜悦的练习后再度来到此页完成检视。
1．当我付出时，我有什么感觉？
□喜悦，因为在付出时我已有喜悦的感觉
□不开心，因为付出意味着我失去了一些东西
□没有多大的感觉，因为我的付出只是得到别人认同的一种手段
□其他
2．当我见到他人快乐时，我会：
□没有多大关系，因为这只是他人的快乐
□感到愉快，因为我快乐着别人的快乐
□感到不快，我会因别人拥有我所没有的东西而不快
□其他
何谓喜悦
正如一句话所说：“你赚来的钱不是你的，只有你花出去的钱才是你的。”这句话告诉我们，拥有不会令你喜悦，唯有将你拥有的与别人分享，你才会感到喜悦。当你将拥有的与其他人分享，从别人身上看到他们的需要得到满足时，那份喜悦足以令你永生难忘。
付出的人内心洋溢着喜悦，因为付出是自愿和主动的。他们会把焦点放在对方身上，如果看到支持的人有些许进步，付出的人也会喜不自胜。付出所产生的作用是成全别人，满足自己，付出赋予人一种幸福和快乐的根据。所以当你看到别人因你的付出而快乐时，你也会因感受别人的快乐而快乐。
练习（一）
回想你喜悦的时候
回想你在儿时最喜悦的时刻，请从下面的表格中，选取和你最喜悦时刻有关的项目。
请从上表中选取三件你最喜悦的有关付出的事情，然后记录在这些事情中，什么人的付出让你产生喜悦，又有什么人与你分享了这一份喜悦。
事件（一）
事件内容：
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什么人与你分享了这份喜悦？
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当你与别人分享喜悦时，你的感受是什么？
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当你付出时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
付出的起点是他人，是一种凡事为他人考虑、成就他人的心态。
索取的焦点是自己，是一种“你能够给我什么”的思考模式。
在这次事件中，有什么人向你索取？
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当别人向你索取时，你的心情是怎样的？
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反观自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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当你向别人索取时，描述一下你当时的心情。
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当你索取时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
事件（二）
事件内容：
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有什么人与你分享这份喜悦？
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当你付出时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
付出的起点是他人，是一种凡事为他人考虑、成就他人的心态。
索取的焦点是自己，是一种“你能够给我什么”的思考模式。
在这次事件中，有什么人向你索取？
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反观自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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当你向别人索取时，描述一下你当时的心情。
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当你索取时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
事件（三）
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当你付出时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
付出的起点是他人，是一种凡事为他人考虑、成就他人的心态。
索取的焦点是自己，是一种“你能够给我什么”的思考模式。
在这次事件中，有什么人向你索取？
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反观自己，你是否有向他人索取？
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当你索取时，你有多大程度的喜悦？（1——最不喜悦，5——最喜悦）
完成以上的练习后，你有什么发现？你会发现一个事实：付出比索取更能让人喜悦。付出者看到分享者的快乐时，他们也会因为分享者的快乐而快乐，分享者也因付出者的付出而快乐。你会体会到付出者和接受者是同样喜悦的。
小时候，父母或其他长辈送礼物给你，在你喜出望外的时候，他们看到你那么快乐，也会跟你一样喜悦。当时他们并没有指望你会给他们什么回报，这是一个永恒不变的道理：付出令别人喜悦，也令付出的人喜悦。你想成为这个喜悦的源头吗？你想把喜悦延伸下去吗？
练习（二）
现在你需要从日常生活中，找回这一份喜悦。未来的一周内，记下你曾为哪些人付出，以及当时的感受。你的付出练习对象需要是一些平常对你不太友好的人，甚至是一些你不喜欢的人。你的付出可以是送他们一份小礼物，也可以是一句简单问候。在这一周内，请你体会一下，你每天对于快乐的感受有什么不同。
现在请你总结，当你为家人付出时，他们有多少次的反应是快乐的，有多少次是不快乐的。请你用百分比计算，并以柱状图的形式记录下来。
当你看到家人快乐时，你的感受是怎样的？
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当你看到家人不快乐时，你有什么感受？
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现在请你总结，当你为朋友付出时，他们有多少次的反应是快乐的，有多少次是不快乐的。请你用百分比计算，并以柱状图的形式记录下来。
当你看到朋友快乐时，你的感受是怎样的？
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现在请你总结，当你为同事付出时，他们有多少次的反应是快乐的，有多少次是不快乐的。请你用百分比计算，并以柱状图的形式记录下来。
当你看到同事快乐时，你的感受是怎样的？
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当你看到同事不快乐时，你有什么感受？
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现在请你总结，当你为其他人付出时，他们有多少次的反应是快乐的，有多少次是不快乐的。请你用百分比计算，并以柱状图的形式记录下来。
当你看到其他人快乐时，你的感受是怎样的？
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你认为怎样才能永远拥有这份喜悦？
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你希望永远拥有这份喜悦吗？
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□否，请详列原因：
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请你写下永远拥有这份喜悦的计划。
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在过去一周的练习中，相信你已经历了一些快乐与不快乐的时段，试画出本周内你的快乐程度时间线。看看你哪些时段是快乐的，哪些时段是不快乐的。
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现在，请把你的时间线画出来。
在快乐指数最高的日子里，你做了哪些事情？
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在快乐指数最低的日子里，你做了哪些事情？
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你认为这些喜悦与你的付出有关吗？
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小结
相信你已在这一周的练习中，深深体会到那份基于付出所拥有的喜悦。请你谨记这份喜悦，它能时刻提醒你，无论什么时候，付出充满喜悦。无论你拥有多少，假如你的生命中缺少付出，你的喜悦依然是不足的。
进度检视
恭喜你，你已经完成了“喜悦”部分的练习，现在，请你检视以下有关“喜悦”的达成度情况（请选出符合你的情况的选项，并用圆圈圈出）。
1．做到喜悦地付出。
2．了解在付出的同时也会有喜悦的心情。
注意！别忘了返回本阶段的“第一次检视”（第80页）部分，完成你的检视。